Intimacy PILLS

This is what we discussed at our June 1 Intimacy event
(every Frist Friday at South City Kitchen Vinings 7-10pm)

If you want to increase your level of intimacy - emotional and physical, try...

Intimacy PILLS

P - Prayer
I - Involvement
L - Loving Response
L - Listen Deeply
S - Speak Positively

This is what brings you closer outside the bedroom and results in closeness inside the bedroom as well.

Prayer is the most intimate thing a man and woman can do together. Ask God to bring you closer.  He can solve any problem between you.  Be sure to ask Him to change YOU first, your spouse will follow.

Get Involved with your spouses favorite activty (running, gardening, painting, cooking). Choose an activity that your spouse truly enjoys and SERVE them in that activity.  As they are fulfilled by the activity, they will feel closer to you.

When you are offended by your spouse, respond with a LOVING attitude on purpose.  Most of the time, others don't intend to offend you.  Responding in LOVE makes you feel better and diffuses a potential argument.

Listen Deeply to your spouses hopes, fears and dreams on a daily basis.  "Active Listening" is what this is called.  Hear them out, repeating back what they said often to make sure they are heard and then empathise with how these things made them feel.  Be sure to address their emotions.

Speak Positively about your spouse and your relationship.  When you say bad things, it gets worse.  Never gossip with friends.  Only discuss your spouse/marriage/realtionship in positive terms and things will always move toward the positive.

Book Suggestions:
Couples Who Pray by Squire Rushnell and Louise DuArt (Prayer)
Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix (Involvement and Listen Deeply)
Forgive for Love by Fred Luskin (Loving Response)

This Friday night at South City Kitchen (7pm Dinner, 8:30pm Mixer) we will explore:
Relationship Expert, Mort Fertel's 5 Relationship Habits to Create INTIMACY

#1 TALK... 3 times daily about "non logistical" issues.  No kids, bills or planning dinner.  Talk to your spouse/lover about each other's dreams, feelings, fantasies! Connect with the heart every day!!!

#2 TOUCH... 3 times daily with a NON SEXUAL gentle touch while looking in your spouse/lover's eyes to listen to them, ask them how they are feeling or to express a kind thought. Do it in the morning, before dinner, but don't wait until you are in bed.

#3 MEET... schedule a business meeting once or twice a week for an hour or two.  Knock out all the logistics and scheduling so you can devote your other conversations to heart felt connection.  This way, no one is wanting a connection but instead getting business.

#4 DATE... yes date night!  Every week.  Schedule the baby sitter ahead of time like a re-occuring meeting.  Put this ahead of everything else on your calendar!  Let the kids take a night off of sports and cancel your business dinner. Get out and have fun together!

#5 INTIMACY INTERVIEW... Once a year, sit down for at least an evening and ask your spouse to empty their heart.  What is their favorite color, favorite movie, where they feel they have failed and what they dream about during the day.  Know this information and use it to please your spouse/lover. 

Thanks to Mort Fertel, Author of Marriage Fitness, book and program.  Look him up on the web for more!

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